Not a GIRL's girl

Every one has met that girl that only has male friends.  She says she gets along alright with girls but for some reason she just doesn’t seem to have any girlfriends.  How do you get that girl to begin those relationships?  How do you make them see the purity of having women to confide it, and not seek the unhealthy attention from the men?

I used to be that girl.  When I was in college I had a couple of girlfriends that I was really close to but for the most part I had a plethora of male friends.  I enjoyed hanging out with those guys and spent most of my free time doing so.  I would have picked hanging out with a group of guys over hanging out with a group of girls any night of the week.  Back then I think I found a sense of security in being with a group of guys.  I never really cared what they thought of me and usually when your in a group of girls it is harder to be that carefree.  Girls judge girls, that is what we do and I just never wanted to surround myself with that.  I also found confidence in the attention the guys brought me.  There is nothing stronger than the attention from a male that can make a woman feel good about herself (except for maybe a sexy pair of new shoes.) It’s like a drug and can become addicting.  I think that is what happened to me. My intentions in the beginning were pure, but after I was denied the attention from the man I wanted it from I turned to any man that would give it to me.  It became my high and I continued to seek the attention from the wrong source.  It wasn’t sexual for me, well maybe some of it was, but most of it was purely just the company of a male presence that I knew adored me.  They weren’t boyfriends, they were really “just friends” and maybe a few with benefits.  

So how do we make that transition from being a guy’s girl to being a girl’s girl?  I always had a few girls I was close with but it wasn’t until I really starting becoming a woman that I started truly confiding in my girl friends.  As I got older they became my security, my insecurity, my confidence, my wisdom and my confidants. Our relationships then became real.  Real relationships with women can be tough because you have to face the things that make you feel uncomfortable.  Sometimes being with them can make me feel insecure, but that has nothing to do with them.  It has to do with me and what is going on inside me.  It forces me to look inside and fix whatever it is that is causing me to feel that way.  Sometimes it isn’t all dreamy like a relationship with a good male friend can be.  It can be messy and painful, but it can also be the most uplifting relationship of them all.  Your girlfriends can lift you up when you are low, lighten you up when you are dark, and help shape your life in the direction you need it to go.   

Every girl deserves to have this kind of relationship.  If you don’t have one, then take a look at your heart and try to discover why.  What is it that entices you about having so many relationships/friendships with men?  What is it about a friendship with a girl that chases you away.  Get real with yourself and find it, because these are the relationships that you will have forever.  Male friends can only stick around so long.  Once you move into the next chapter of your life and have a boyfriend or a husband those male friendships, no matter how strong they are, will change or fade away.  The women stick around and will be there through it all.  That is worth taking a risk for.  A new friend is exciting so branch out and find one!